What kind of man experiences erectile dysfunction and impotence?

What kind of man experiences erectile dysfunction and impotence?

As you'd probably expect, most men have some experiences of impotence or erectile dysfunction in their life. We assume that the erect penis is a fundamental part of us.....until it goes wrong, that is. But the truth is that having an erection is one of the least reliable aspects of masculinity and all kinds of things can affect it: a woman who comes out with the wrong comments when we are feeling vulnerable, assuming that we can have sex even when we don't want to, our belief that the man is the leader and initiator during sex, that the woman is passive during sex, and so forth. 

But, of course, some men are more likely to have erectile dysfunction problems than other men. Those who worry a lot, those who find that little things cause them a great deal of agonizing, those who mull over the state of their relationships, and those whose minds are restless cauldrons of worry and anxiety are most likely to experience erectile dysfunction - followed by those who have a problem with anger. Relaxed and sexually confident men are least likely to have erectile dysfunction.

If you're worried about erectile dysfunction, you may already know that anxiety about losing your erection and anxiety about erectile dysfunction can quickly make the problem much worse.

In working all this out, start by asking yourself what kinds of standards you aspire to during sex. Do you have a need to be in control while your partner remains more passive? Do you feel you "give" her an orgasm, do you always make sure she gets her orgasm before you do? If so, you need to understand that this kind of perfectionism is going to lead to failure: no one can be perfect, and therefore you are doomed to fail. One experience when your penis lets you down can seem like a massive failure: you've let your woman down, you've let yourself down, your penis has let you down, and it might all happen again? Who can trust who anymore? How can you (and your penis) ever be trusted again?

Further more, if you lack sexual experience, you may not yet realize that one episode of impotence isn't the end of your sex life. If this fact is unclear to you, and you approach sex with your anxiety uppermost in your thoughts, it's quite possible that you will lose your erection, since such expectations are often only too quickly fulfilled.

But this can happen to every man on the face of the earth, whatever his personality type, his level of anxiety or his sexual experience. If you find that your erection is frequently going down at the worst moments, and you don't understand why, it doesn't really what you age or circumstances - you can rapidly come to believe you will never be sexually confident again. And once you don't get erect, you'll feel less of a man, for sure....and you might try some strategies to cope with erectile dysfunction and get things back to normal..... you can see what they are here. 

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